Four Steps To Ledtting Go of a Grudge

FOUR STEPS TO LETTING GO OF A GRUDGE:
Holding a grudge can feel really satisfying. But over time it'll just make you angry and bitter. And the stress can lead to things like anxiety and high blood pressure. So if you've been holding a grudge way too long, here are four steps to help you let go .

STEP #1.) FIGURE OUT WHY YOU'RE STILL ANGRY. You've probably been wronged or insulted by someone before, so why are you so angry THIS time? You have to find the REAL reason you're angry before you can let go of the grudge.

STEP #2.) REALIZE HOW IT'S IMPACTING YOUR LIFE. Are you constantly avoiding the other person? Is it affecting other relationships? If you realize how the grudge is affecting you, you'll see how much simpler life would be if you let it go.

STEP #3.) MAKE A DECISION. Do you still want to have a relationship with the other person, or not? If you do, then you have to stop being passive aggressive, and you have to start being honest about why you're still angry. Do it now, or you never will.

--If you decide to cut all ties, then DO IT. Don't decide to hate the person forever . . . then go to brunch with them on Sunday.

STEP #4.) LEAVE THE GRUDGE BEHIND. You have to do it whether you decide to have a relationship with the person or not. It's not for them, it's for you. So, when someone asks how the person's doing, resist the urge to trash talk.